I am SICK AND TIRED of the male species calling women a gold digger in a derogatory way. Now, given my husband's chosen profession, I have not been accused of this circumstance (seriously...), but I have been a part of many conversations involving this subject and it irritates me.
Why does it irritate you? That's easy to answer. Because the people who are making these accusations, are hypocrites. If a man assesses whether or not a woman is of value based on her physical appearance, he has NO RIGHT to make any comments about a woman assessing HIS value based on his ability to provide her with the lifestyle she desires. Period. Cut, paste, go to print. Check mate. Yada yada. No right, whatsoever.
I have heard so many men complain about women wanting to know how much money they make, etc etc, and then two sentences later continue on about her being "hot" or "doable" or "attractive." In fact, in the majority of all conversations I have with a male species discussing a female love interest, the very first things they SAY are about appearance!
Now a man will tell you that he can't "possibly" marry a woman he's not attracted to. Fine. If that's the reality for you then great. But why would you be so shallow to have that viewpoint, but then not tolerate a female having an equally shallow assessment about you? Why? Because you're a hypocrite. Do as I say, not as I do.
Do I think being a gold digger is right? No. I think if your foundation of love for someone begins with financial stability there is something definitely wrong with your heart. Just as I believe that if you would marry someone with a foundation of physical attraction then I believe there is something wrong with your heart.
But overall, my biggest point is this: know what you're marrying and then stop asking for people to feel sorry for you because you have to deal with it. If you marry a gold digger, then don't feel sorry for yourself when she wants you to make more and more and more money. Don't feel sorry for yourself when she doesn't support you quitting the job that you hate. Don't complain when she is constantly asking for more and more stuff. And if you're that girl who marries a guy who is 100% focused on what you look like, then don't act SHOCKED when he expects you to not gain weight, or have wrinkles, or to dress sloppily (even if you have five kids and you've been dealing with them all day). Stop entering in to relationships with this ridiculous idea that who you've married is going to somehow disappear into thin air and become some magically different human being. It doesn't happen. If you marry a self centered donkey, stop expecting them to become magically self sacrificing. If you marry an emotionally charged human being, don't expect them to become logical. And vice versa. It's NOT going to happen!
I am so annoyed with the ridiculousness of some people's decisions!
Okay. Rant over.
For now... ;)
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